LIVE FOR YOURSELF, DON’T COMPARE YOUR LIFE TO OTHER’S
Do you ever feel jealous of other people? Do you ever feel unhappy with your lot in life? What do you feel is missing in your life?
People very often wish that their lives were better. They think about how other people have better lives, especially nowadays with social media. It’s easy to get the perception on social media that other people are all living to the fullest and experiencing great things all the time, while you are stuck in your own boring life.
The grass is always greener on the other side.
WHAT HAPPENS WHEN YOU COMPARE YOURSELF TO OTHERS
When we compare ourselves to others we are playing a losing game. It’s an irresponsible thing to do if you want to protect your self-worth and live a happy and fulfilled life. The problem with comparing our lives to other people’s is that it is not a fair comparison.
Firstly, everyone is unique in who they are. We all act, think, speak, and experience differently. Sure there are common threads running through us, but each person is slightly different. We are all idiosyncratic. The comparison is apples to oranges, some things might apply to other people that don’t apply to us. We are all in slightly different situations and react differently.
Secondly, there are many more people than you. You are only one person, but there are 7 billion others out there who you might be able to compare yourself too.
The problem with this is that you are likely to find someone out there who fits the comparison that you subconsciously want to make.
Have you ever met a person who had a BIG EGO and thought way too highly of themselves? Or a person who had so little confidence in themselves that they thought everyone else was better than them? Both of these people have a problem with comparing themselves to others but are on opposite ends of the spectrum.
If a person convinces themselves of something, like “that they are better than other people” and wants to prove it to themselves. It is trivially easy for them to find examples of others doing things that make them feel superior. But are they really?
It is easy to get a distorted view if you focus too much on comparing yourself to other people. The best way to see how well you are doing in life is to look back at how far you have come.
RUN YOUR OWN RACE, YOU’LL BE MORE FULFILLED
If you reserve the most important judgments that you make about yourself and how you are progressing to self-comparisons, then you will get a clearer view. You won’t become distracted.
What are you trying to achieve? Are you making progress towards your goals? How far have you come? Have you improved yourself?
By looking back to your past you will be able to see how far you have come and appreciate the effort that you have put in, the challenges that you have had to overcome, and the successes you have had. This is a great source of durable fulfillment because it can keep going on as long as you live and continue increasing. The more time you spend improving yourself and watching yourself progress, the more fulfilling it will become. Have a challenge mindset, always push yourself forward.
Live a full life, run your own race.
HOW TO STOP BEING ENVIOUS
Do you get envious sometimes?
Envy is a choice, you don’t have to participate if you don’t want to. Envy is when we desire what others have instead of appreciating what we do have. We imagine how great it must be if only we had (insert anything here).
But envy is just imagined, it’s not based on the other people’s actual life. We don’t get to feel directly what other people’s lives are like and when we imagine how good they must be we usually end up being far too generous with how happy we imagine them to be. Even people who seemingly have it all, struggle with problems in their lives.
The truth is that you can stop being envious in your life and start becoming appreciative of what’s right in front of you. Focus on what is positive in your own life, don’t miss it. Far too many people spend time wishing their lives were better only to realize later in life that they have everything that they need right in front of them.
When others achieve some success or have some other win in their life, enjoy it with them. Be happy that they are happy. You can enjoy other people’s lives vicariously with compassion. Don’t fall for the emotional trap of comparing yourself to others.
LOOK BACK AT HOW FAR YOU’VE COME
You’ll enjoy yourself and your life more if you run your own race, only compare yourself to yourself. Look back at how far you have come, don’t forget how much you have improved over the years and what obstacles you had to overcome.
Let others live their own lives and be happy for them. Stop letting yourself become envious of others, who is it helping? Envy is counter-productive.